Building a God-Centered Romantic Relationship

February often shines a spotlight on romance. Whether you are dating, engaged, married, or praying for the right relationship, one truth remains constant: a healthy romantic relationship must be rooted in God first.

Ecclesiastes 4:12 says, “A threefold cord is not quickly broken.” When Christ is at the center of a relationship, it becomes stronger than emotional attraction or temporary chemistry.

Here is what Scripture teaches about building a healthy, God centered relationship.

1. Seek God before seeking a person

Matthew 6:33 says, “Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.” When you prioritize your relationship with God, He aligns your desires and decisions.

The healthiest relationships form when two whole individuals pursue God independently before pursuing each other.

2. Build on character, not chemistry

Attraction is important, but character sustains love. Galatians 5:22–23 describes the fruit of the Spirit. Ask yourself: Does this relationship reflect patience, kindness, self control, and faithfulness?

A relationship rooted in godly character will outlast emotional highs.

3. Practice healthy communication

Ephesians 4:29 says, “Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification.” Words build or break relationships.

Healthy couples speak life, listen well, and resolve conflict with humility rather than pride.

4. Maintain spiritual unity

Amos 3:3 asks, “Can two walk together unless they are agreed?” Shared faith creates shared direction. Praying together, attending church together, and growing spiritually together strengthens unity.

5. Stay connected to church community

Romantic relationships thrive in accountability and community. A healthy church provides wisdom, mentorship, and support. Isolation can distort perspective. Community protects vision.

Whether you are single or married, build your relationship on a strong spiritual foundation. Join us at Transformation Christian Fellowship this February for worship and teaching that strengthens both your faith and your relationships. Let us grow together in Christ centered love.